Calming Prayers for Mom Before Having Surgery

My mom has faced some health issues in recent years even though she is in relatively good health. However, today she had surgery to remove a basal cell carcinoma from her face. 

Even though the medical staff reassured Mom that she has the “best” kind of cancer, it is still cancer. A word that can bring fear to the bravest heart.

Mom loved laying out in the sun slathered in suntan oil when she was younger. And her dermatologist said it was only a matter of time before such spots appeared. So how did we prepare for surgery?

We Celebrated First

My family gathered for Mom’s 81st birthday just a few weeks ago. We celebrated her life with fun decorations, enjoyed lots of cake, and prayed for a successful surgery. 

Mom bravely went under the hands of the surgeons in the operating room today. She is now in the recovery process.

The time during her healing process will tell us if the cancer removal was successful. She will need to come to grips with a scar on her face – a hard thing for anyone.

I spent a lot of time in prayer for Mom over the past several weeks. In fact, if you have never kept a prayer journal, that certainly helps see how God moves.

Always Pray in Jesus’ Name

As Christians, we understand that the power of prayer must precede everything. And that healing prayer is vitally important for the life of a loved one – especially a mom.

Jesus is our power source: “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me” (Matthew 28:18, ESV). So with confidence and peace of mind, we pray in His name.

Prayer enables us to ask Almighty God in Jesus’ holy name to take control of the situation. So we start by asking the Great Physician to positively influence the hands of the medical people for a successful operation and speedy recovery.

God is our heavenly father who cares for us all the time, but most especially in our time of need. At the same time, He has given us free will to determine what we want for ourselves.

God is a gentleman and does not intrude into our affairs if we do not want him to. In fact, Scripture says, “You have not because you ask not” (James 4:2-3, ESV). So we trust His loving arms every step of the way.

Powerful Prayers Before Surgery

So what are the best ways that we pray for someone as beloved and important as a mom? And on such a sobering occasion as a surgical procedure?

Inviting our Lord Jesus Christ and Divine Healer is the most crucial step. Here are prayers that I have found helpful during this journey with my Mom to use as a starting point for your own prayers.

Gracious Father, we commit into Your hands the surgeon’s hand and medical professionals. Send Your guardian angels to guide them and preserve Mom with Your healing touch. In Jesus’ name, Amen. 

Dear God, I ask that You come into this operation room and take control of the medical team for Mom’s surgery today. Restore Mom to full health through complete healing. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

O Lord, please give Mom (and her family) a peace that passes human understanding. You are the God of hope, so with grateful hearts, we ask You to guide the surgical team through the power of the Holy Spirit. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Father God, surgery can be a difficult time with all of the worry that we let creep in. You are Lord of lords full of loving kindness, so ease our worry. Let the peace of God rule over any anxiety to bring perfect harmony today. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Prayer Scripture for Someone Going Into Surgery

Heavenly Father, your promises are as true today as they were in Bible times. You promised, “I am the Lord that heals you” (Exodus 15:26, ESV). I trust that promise while Mom is on the operating table today. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Jesus, when you touched Peter’s mother-in-law, her fever immediately disappeared (Luke 4:38-40, ESV). Extend your healing hand over Mom today and completely restore her health. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear Lord, You promise in Scripture that when we commit our work and plans into Your hands, You will establish them (Proverbs 16:3, ESV). I commit the work of the doctors and nurses into Your hands for successful surgery and Mom’s healing. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear God, give my mom Your peace that surpasses all human understanding. Remove every fear, trouble, and anxiety from her, and fill her with confidence that she is safe in Your hands. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

A Good Prayer for Someone Having Surgery

Lord God, bring to the surgeon’s hands all of the skills needed for a successful outcome. Prepare them with sharp minds and grant Mom a full recovery surrounded by loving family and your good things. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear Heavenly Father, give Mom peace from an anxious heart. Provide her physical body with the best care in that surgery room to give her long life and normal life. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear Jesus, only you can bring the healing power of God. Give the doctors and nurses the skill and ability to make the right decisions to bring Mom safety through surgery. enrich her daily life by granting her complete healing. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear Father, my prayer today is for Mom. As she faces surgery tomorrow, I trust you to guide the hands of the doctor. Calm all anxious thoughts and bring healing in the mighty name of Jesus.

Short Prayer for Successful Surgery and Recovery

Dearest God, we put all our trust in you. Bless the doctor’s hands and the outcome of surgery. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

O God, I pray that the surgery room is filled with the heavenly host. Let them surround Mom, the doctors, and the medical staff to bring healing through a successful surgery. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Loving Heavenly Father, let the doctors and nurses be extensions of your healing hand. We trust you. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dearest Jesus, I entrust Mom’s body, soul, and spirit in your perfect hands during surgery. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Father, I know that you cherish her more than I do, and pray that you will bring her through better than ever. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Lord God, full health is what I desire for Mom so I boldly pray that be her portion in Jesus’ name. 

Prayer for Safe Operation

Father, as Mom’s surgery draws near, an anxious heart can make peace elusive. Calm her from the inside out as only you can do. Give her comfort in knowing that you are working for her good and your glory. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear Lord, give us comforting words of hope and healing to share with Mom as she goes in for her operation. Let those holy words wash over her to bring peace and hope. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Jesus, you can heal all sickness and disease, even those we may classify as incurable. I believe in miracles and pray that you strengthen and heal Mom through today’s operation. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Lord and Friend, I ask that you renew Mom’s health today through a successful operation in such a remarkable way that no one can take glory for it but You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Father, you have brought Mom to this point so that you can bring healing to her body. Guide the hands of the surgeon and medical staff to ensure a successful operation. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Prayer for After Surgery

Father God, thank you for bringing Mom through a successful surgery today. I praise you for working through the doctors to accomplish everything needed to heal Mom. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear Jesus, I pray that you complete the healing work that you started today in Mom’s surgery. Keep her stable and strengthen her hour by hour as you continue to make her well. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear God, as Mom now moves from surgery to health, bless her with a strong body, mind, and spirit. Let her see Your hand in her healing and rely on You for all the days of her life. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear Father, I am so thankful that you have brought Mom safely through surgery! I pray that you continue to heal her body so that she can serve you fully with joy. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Pray Without Ceasing

He wants us to live a life of constant prayer. In fact, Scripture specifically tells us, “Pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17, ESV). Those moments when you are waiting in the doctor’s office provide great opportunities to talk with God.

Engaging in ongoing communication with Him as our closest friend. Such honest and open hearts enable us to build a strong relationship with Him. Over time, we learn to rely on Him for all our needs.

Silent prayers are just as effective as spoken prayers. God’s power resides in both, so if you are uncomfortable praying out loud or find yourself in a situation where you need to be silent, prayer is still possible.

The Bible is as true today as the days in which it was written. God is the healer of our souls and bodies, offering His resurrection life to bring healing, both physically and eternally.

God wants us to pray when things are going well and when they are going the other way. He wants us to pray about everything and never rely upon our efforts or abilities.

Why Is Prayer Important?

​Almighty God is the giver of life. As the Great Physician, only He can bring healing into anyone’s life. 

Prayer intentionally brings the power of God into any situation. Although Jesus is always present, He will not barge into your life. He gently knocks and waits for you to open the door. 

Intentional prayer also brings an acute awareness of His presence in your life. As you pray for certain people or situations, you will be able to discern how God is moving. That is a strong way to strengthen your faith!

God promises: “Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you” (Jeremiah 29:12, ESV). God is as close as our next breath and hears every word – both spoken and unspoken.

Some medical cases are not physical even though they may appear to be so. Some ailments can only be answered by prayers. Jesus said, “This kind will not go except by prayer and fasting” (Matthew 17:21, footnote).

Do Not Be Ignorant of Satan’s Devices

Scripture clearly warns us: “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8, ESV). 

That passage continues by letting us know what to do: “Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world” (1 Peter 5:9, ESV).

I wrote an entire 8-week Bible study on the armor of God called “Your Strong Suit” based on Ephesians 6:10-18. Understanding the defensive armor that God has provided emboldens us to fight the good fight with prayer leading the charge.

God has also given us the most powerful offensive weapon: “the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God” (Ephesians 6:17, ESV).

In order to use that all-powerful, spiritual offensive weapon, we need to know God’s Word. Studying the Bible is key. Here are several Bible studies that can get you started.

Regularly reading through Scripture is also a powerful tool in your spiritual arsenal against attacks of the enemy. Set yourself the task of reading through the Bible by picking one of these free Bible reading plans.

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Bottom Line

Knowing God’s Word is key to an effective prayer life. As you read through Scripture, pick out some key Bible verses to memorize. 

Committing your life and the life of your loved ones into God’s hands is the most effective way to live a God-honoring life full of contentment and peace, despite any hard time that comes.

He is for you and not against you! He will bring about His perfect plan in your life that will be far better than you could have planned.

The goodness of the Lord and His higher power in your life are the greatest blessings that you will ever receive. He faithfully holds you in the palm of his mighty hand.

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70 Inspirational Friday Bible Verses and Prayer Blessings

Good morning! Every morning needs prayers and blessings from God’s Word and that certainly includes Friday.

Even though some of us view Friday as the best day of the week, for others it can be challenging for various reasons.

​Whether you are a fan of Friday or not, it is still a day that the Lord has made, so we can rejoice and be glad in it! (Psalm 118:24) So pour some coffee or tea into an inspirational mug and let’s dive into Friday.

I searched Scripture to glean many good things from the Word of God to bless your Friday morning. You can use these as anchors for your day or pass them along to someone who may need the good gift of a beautiful day.

Here are some good morning Friday blessings sorted by categories so that you can easily find the ones that offer the perfect gift for you today. 

Contents

  1. Friday Prayer Blessings About the Love of God
  2. Good Friday Quotes About the Work Week
  3. Friday Encouragement for Friends
  4. Friday Quotes for a Blessing-Filled Day
  5. Friday Morning Motivation for a Great Day
  6. Prayers and Wisdom for Friday Night
  7. Good News Despite Hard Times
  8. Good Deeds for a Blessed Friday
  9. Inspirational Bible Verses About the Peace of God
  10. Joy-Filled Friday Bible Verses
  11. Friday Thanksgiving to the Lord
  12. Final Thoughts

If the prayer or blessing are Scripture quotations, the biblical reference will be in parenthesis at the end. If it is a direct quote from another author, it will have quotation marks around it.

Unless otherwise indicated, all Bible quotes are from the English Standard Version with a link to Bible Gateway if you would like to see a different version.

Friday Prayer Blessings About the Love of God

The Bible says that God is love, which makes the Word of God the perfect source to know what love means and how we can love people. Knowing that you are loved beyond imagination is a beautiful way to wrap up your week!

“The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.” (Zephaniah 3:17)

“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

“The Christian does not think God will love us because we are good, but that God will make us good because He loves us.” ―C.S. Lewis

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” (1 Corinthians 13:13, NIV)

“This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.” (1 John 4:9)

Good Friday Quotes About the Work Week

God’s words tell us that working honestly, but with faith in mind, can lead to the great things he has planned for us. Allow these verses to encourage and motivate you to do the best you can do every day of the week.

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” (Colossians 3:23-24)

“Success is not how high you have climbed, but how you make a positive difference to the world.” ―Roy T. Bennett

“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” (Proverbs 16:3)

“Let the favor of the Lord our God be upon us, and establish the work of our hands upon us; yes, establish the work of our hands!” (Psalm 90:17)

“When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully. When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.” ―Steve Maraboli

Friday Encouragement for Friends

Friends are truly one of God’s great blessings in our lives. Friends walk with us through the tough times and rejoice with us through the good times. As you start out this Friday, spend time thanking God for those friends in your life.

“Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.” (Proverbs 27:9)

“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” ―Elbert Hubbard

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” (Proverbs 17:17)

“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:12-13)

“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.” ―Joan Powers

“My intercessor is my friend as my eyes pour out tears to God; on behalf of a man he pleads with God as one pleads for a friend.” (Job 16:20-21, NIV)

Friday Quotes for a Blessing-Filled Day

Whether or not we acknowledge them or even recognize them, God’s blessings fill our days. Like a parent who delights in blessing their children, God loves to pour blessings over our lives.

“Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.” ―Roy T. Bennett

“You are the only you God made… God made you and broke the mold.” ―Max Lucado

“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.” ―Elie Wiesel

“It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.” ―Herman Melville

“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” ―Confucius

“If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it. If He had a wallet, your photo would be in it. He sends you flowers every spring and a sunrise every morning… Face it, friend. He is crazy about you!” ―Max Lucado

Friday Morning Motivation for a Great Day

Pause and allow these Bible verses to encourage you to trust in God and be grateful for the blessing of life. Be inspired by the Word of God!

“For nothing will be impossible with God.” (Luke 1:37)

We know it is a blessing-filled day because it is a day you created, O Lord!

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” (2 Timothy 1:7, NKJV)

“For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” (John 3:16)

“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” (Lamentations 3:22-23)

“Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” (Romans 12:12)

“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” (James 1:17)

Prayers and Wisdom for Friday Night

The work week is over, so I am pausing social media to gather with my family members and loved ones to celebrate what the Lord did this week. Such times make life rich.

“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” ―Nicolas Chamfort

“For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.” (Isaiah 41:13)

“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” ―Kurt Vonnegut

“Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul.” (3 John 1:2)

“It is good to praise the Lord and make music to your name, O Most High, proclaiming your love in the morning and your faithfulness at night.” (Psalm 92:1-2)

The best thing you did today, Lord, is simply show up and let your light shine on me and through me. Thank you, Lord!

Good News Friday Despite Hard Times

When we are feeling weak or timid, these scriptures remind us that God is present with us. Despite our fears and insecurities, God is near to us, providing us with strength in our time of need. 

“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19)

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10)

“And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.” (2 Corinthians 9:8)

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ―Maya Angelou

“The Lord is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation; this is my God, and I will praise him, my father’s God, and I will exalt him.” (Exodus 15:2)

“The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.” (Psalm 18:2)

Good Deeds for a Blessed Friday

Jesus showed the ultimate selflessness in laying down His life to set us free. Imitating His selfless love by serving others instead of simply serving ourselves brings blessings upon blessings. 

“You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.” (Galatians 5:13)

“May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.” (Ruth 2:12)

God is merciful and gracious and is abounding in goodness and truth. May all of those characteristics of God be clear to me this Friday so I may focus on God and all His goodness.

“I don’t want to live in the kind of world where we don’t look out for each other. Not just the people that are close to us, but anybody who needs a helping hand.” ―Charles de Lint

“Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.” (Romans 12:13)

Inspirational Bible Verses About the Peace of God

God can bring peace amid struggles, worries, and fear. In fact, He promises that His peace “passes all understanding”. Use these verses to step back from the pressure of life and come into the presence of God to hear His promises of hope and comfort over your circumstances.

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have trouble. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

“Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times in every way. The Lord be with you all.” (2 Thessalonians 3:16)

“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” (Isaiah 26:3)

“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.” (Numbers 6:24-26)

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” (John 14:27)

Joy-Filled Friday Bible Verses

At the end of a long week, you may feel short on joy. Yet Joy is one of the most prominent themes of the Bible. Happiness is circumstantial, but the joy of the Lord has already been given to us. Allow these verses to remind you of God’s joy!

“Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice.” (Philippians 4:4)

May our praises be as big as our blessings this Friday. 

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:2-4)

“Until now you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full.” (John 16:24)

Nehemiah said, “Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” (Nehemiah 8:10)

“I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.” (3 John 1:4)

Friday Praises for the Lord

Beginning our Friday by praising the Lord sets our minds on Him and His goodness. Praising God gives us the eyes to see Him and His bountiful blessings throughout each day.

On this Friday, “I will meditate on the glorious splendor of Your majesty, and on Your wondrous works. Men shall speak of the might of Your awesome acts, and I will declare Your greatness. They shall utter the memory of Your great goodness, and shall sing of Your righteousness.” (Psalm 145:5-7)

“In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)

“But I, with shouts of grateful praise, will sacrifice to you. What I have vowed I will make good. I will say, ‘Salvation comes from the Lord.’ ” (Jonah 2:9)

“Praise the Lord, my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name. Praise the Lord, my soul, and forget not all his benefits.” (Psalm 103:1-2)

​Friday Thanksgiving to the Lord

It’s so easy to become overwhelmed with all the tasks and activities to do that we forget to stop and reflect on why we should be celebrating Friday and heading into the weekend. Read these verses aloud!

“I will give to the Lord the thanks due to his righteousness, and I will sing praise to the name of the Lord, the Most High.” (Psalm 7:17)

“Let us come before him with thanksgiving and extol him with music and song. For the LORD is the great God, the great King above all gods.” (Psalm 95:2-3)

“So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.” (Colossians 2:6-7)

“Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.” (Psalm 100:4)

“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever.” (Psalm 136:1)

“Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.” (Colossians 4:2)

“Let them give thanks to the Lord for his unfailing love and his wonderful deeds for mankind, for he satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things.” (Psalm 107:8-9)

Final Thoughts

Whether today is a Friday or Tuesday, the power of God never diminishes. He gave us the life of Jesus at the proper time so we have the hope of eternal life.

I pray that the Word of God sings over your life in a loud voice. I pray that God’s love makes your face shine today. And perhaps write it down to remember on those hard days.

God created the entire world, but he knows you individually. The best way to start any day is to seek the will of God before your feet hit the floor.

Your heavenly Father loves you more than you can possibly imagine. God’s blessings and the Word of the Lord of Hosts are rich food to feast on any day of the week.

​Have a Happy and Blessed Friday!

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25 Encouraging Bible Verses for Addiction Recovery

If you have struggled with addiction of any kind, you fully understand that it feels like a never-ending battle. Whether drug addiction, alcohol addiction, substance abuse, sexual immorality, or other addictive behaviors, the Word of God is the first step on the right path.

Throughout my whole adult life, my struggle has been food. I have struggled with yo-yo dieting and obesity for decades. Food has always been my way of escape when faced with difficult times, celebrating the good times, and any time in between. 

But I have not faithfully fought that addiction by relying wholeheartedly on the grace of God found in God’s Word. I allowed my own glutinous desires to take precedence over the work of the Holy Spirit. Perhaps you can relate to that struggle in your own addiction battle. 

Enough is enough. I went on a journey through Scripture to discover the most helpful Bible verses for encouragement and great power when temptation hits hard. I pray that these verses will help you, as well.

1. For the Weary

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:28-29

Any type of addiction falls heavy on your heart, mind, and soul. You need to share the burden. Most days you wish you could simply push a magic button and it would disappear forever. A support group is a wonderful place to share those burdens. Journaling is also an effective tool for offloading.

However, the Good News of the power of Christ gets to the heart of your mental health. Knowing that Christ Jesus initiates the healing process by shouldering your burden gets to the heart of the battle.

2. Seeking Peace

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” John 14:27

Struggling with addiction is a constant source of unrest. Whether alcohol abuse, drug abuse, lust of the flesh, or food, the power of addiction affects all areas of life.

However, this beautiful verse reminds you that even in the midst of sinful behaviors and poor choices, the peace of God has not bypassed you. No power on earth is stronger than God’s love and God’s grace over you.

3. Prayer for Healing

And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” James 5:15-16

This beautiful verse encourages us to share your struggles with each other for prayer and encouragement. When you call on dear friends and family members, their prayers help us through tough times. They can alleviate the heavy loads of accountability that encourage a fresh start and recovery journey.

4. The Right Friends

Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals.1 Corinthians 15:33

Temptation lurks around every corner, as well as from old friends who may also struggle with addictions. This verse wisely instructs you to surround yourself with the good character and godly lives of the right people. Only those family members and friends who truly care for you will actively help you recover from addiction.

5. Healing Process

Behold, I will bring to it health and healing, and I will heal them and reveal to them abundance of prosperity and security.Jeremiah 33:6

The healing process following addiction treatment can be a long haul of ups and downs. You have to deal with cravings, relapse, boredom, loneliness, and difficulty finding purpose. However, by faith, God can bring about complete and lasting healing. This verse promises, “I will.” And He will.

6. Abundant Hope

And you will feel secure, because there is hope; you will look around and take your rest in security.” Job 11:18

If you have struggled with addiction for years, you may feel that recovery from addiction is hopeless. Processing stress, shame, anger, and sadness are difficult emotions to wrangle.

Your addiction may have caused financial or relationship problems, as well. However, this verse reminds you that the hope of God is a promise that He keeps. Holding on to the hope of God will bring about healing and a rebuilt life.

7. Perseverance

Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Romans 5:3-5

Any time we face tough times, trials, and sufferings, God allows us to grow stronger and braver. Just like muscles in a gym, resistance builds physical strength.

This verse provides truth and hope that fighting through addiction builds spiritual strength. Feelings of emptiness, shame, and loneliness will be replaced by a sober mind fixed on eternal glory with God.

8. Walk with God

Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.” Galatians 5:19-21

Addictions are truly works of the flesh. God does not tempt us to become addicts, that is wholly the devil’s scheme to draw us away from God. The list is long, but none is stronger than the higher power of God Almighty.

Worldly passions surround you every day, yet the Spirit of God lives inside of you. He never leaves nor abandons you to addiction, but calls us to walk in His light.

9. Be Filled With the Spirit

And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit.” Ephesians 5:18

There is no room for misinterpretation here: abusing alcohol leads to sin. Indeed, any overindulgence follows similar consequences of addiction. But being filled with the Spirit brings life, peace, freedom, and hope. Such a life includes prayer, confession of sins, gratitude, and living in such a way that honors the Lord God. 

10. Cast Away Anxiety

Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.1 Peter 5:6-8

Feeling anxious goes hand-in-hand with working toward addiction recovery. However, anxiety does not help, which is why the Lord tells us to hand our anxieties over to Him. In His hands, they are cast away for good, not just for a little while.

God desires for us to have the crown of life not a crown of thorns. He is trustworthy. Even though the devil prowls like a lion, our Lion of Judah devours your anxiety.

11. Just Say No

For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age.Titus 2:11-12

The addiction recovery process is more involved than just saying no, but that’s where recovery must start. Saying no to ungodliness and passions of the flesh marks the beginning of living a life that honors God and His calling on your life. Saying no inspires you toward self-control and building a closer relationship with God.

12. Facing Trials

Count it all joy, my brothers and sisters, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.” James 1:2-3

Joy is the last thing that comes to mind when faced with addiction. However, James does call the addiction a joy, but rather that through the struggles God forges strength and persistence. Those valuable qualities are necessary to stay the course and remain clean. Steadfastness is key to overcoming any addiction through Christ alone.

13. Conquering Temptation

For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:15-16

Jesus Christ experienced temptations while He was here on Earth yet did not fall into sin. This means that Jesus understands firsthand weakness and disappointment. He can sympathize and emphasize with such pain. He even paid the price for our sins with His life.

Addiction may have once had you, but this verse reassures you that Jesus’ mercy and compassion has the final say.

14. Victorious Strength

I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13

Feeling weak and overwhelmed is common as you focus on overcoming addiction. It is normal to feel self-directed anger and shame for the damage your addiction has caused in your life and the relationship with family and friends you hold dear.

But this verse confirms that all things are possible in Christ – even defeating addiction. God faithfully provides His strength to stay focused and on the path to your new life.

15. Faithful Guide

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” Matthew 6:13

The last thing that Satan wants is your recovery. He will lob every fiery dart at you in order to bring you down. But God will never tempt you, much less lead you there. The enemy’s temptations may be strong, but God has unlimited power to defeat that enemy.

So when you are tempted to fall back into old patterns or places where your addiction thrived, pray this prayer for God to deflect the enemy’s evil plan.

16. Helping Others 

Brothers and sisters, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” Galatians 6:1

You may have family or friends who also abuse addictive substances. If so, you could serve as part of their support network. By listening to their struggles without judging, you could provide an excellent example by living a healthy, God-centered lifestyle.

By abstaining from drugs, alcohol, or other addictive behaviors, you can demonstrate that victory is possible through Christ. Your example can help prevent them from succumbing to their sinful temptations and point them to the One who can bring ultimate victory.

17. God Listens

Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.” Jeremiah 29:12-13

God is as close as your next breath and hears your prayers without fail. God listens to you and knows the content of your heart. Your heart is likely heavily burdened with the shame and trauma caused by addiction. Some days may feel like it is simply too much to handle.

But God promises that He will listen to your prayer and always be available when you call on Him. He never abandons nor forsakes you.

18. God Enables Recovery

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man it is impossible, but not with God. For all things are possible with God.Mark 10:27

Overcoming addiction, especially one you have struggled with for years may feel impossible. But God reminds you in this verse that absolutely everything is possible with Him.

The recovery road may be rough, but God’s love and grace will bring you healing. Seeking His help is the first step toward healing. Do not hesitate to call on Him. He is ready and able to sever the tentacles of addiction.

19. Renewing Your Mind

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:2

The struggle with addiction always begins in your mind. Battles are won or lost in your mind long before they play out in real-time. The thoughts and content that occupy your mind make all the difference. This verse points out that renewing your mind is key to overcoming addiction.

Such a transformation can only be accomplished in Christspending time in His Word and prayer. Such discipline produces perseverance that is necessary for victory over any substance use disorder. Spending daily time in prayer and studying God’s Word provides the unbeatable combination to defeat addiction once and for all.

20. Facing Temptation

Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.” James 1:13-14

Satan will use every opportunity to put the stumbling block of temptation in your path. Whether through a tempting environment in your area of addiction or careless words spoken by unsupportive friends, you have a choice whether or not to give in to that desire.

God will never tempt you. God tests you toward success, as in a classroom. The enemy alone tempts you toward failure for destruction. Keeping your eyes on God and turning over the temptation battle to Him will keep you on the right path toward recovery. God is faithful and wants you to live a life free of addiction. Trust Him. 

21. Defining Desires

For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world.1 John 2:16

The desire to sin and fall into addiction never originates from God. This verse reminds you that this world and the temptations paraded before your eyes are the culprits. The God of all grace designed you to live in different waysways that honor Him and build your life on His promises.

A life free from addiction can be leveraged in serving Him for Kingdom purposes. The best treatment plan is calling on the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and trusting in His holy treatment program of love, mercy, and grace.

22. Not All Things Are Helpful

“You say, ‘I am allowed to do anything’—but not everything is good for you. And even though ‘I am allowed to do anything,’ I must not become a slave to anything.” 1 Corinthians 6:12

This verse hits a key point: you are allowed to do anything. But addiction stops short of asking a crucial question: “Is it helpful?” Or even further: “Am I becoming a slave to this thing?” The Apostle Paul answers those questions flat out: not everything is good for you.

And even though you are allowed to do anything, there will be consequences for harmful decisions. God allows consequences to fall based on your choices in order to change behavioral patterns toward better choices. In spite of everything, remember that God consistently and faithfully forgives you because He loves you. 

23. Resist the Devil

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” James 4:7

 The devil is going to mess with you, but God promises that when you resist the devil, he will flee. He has no choice. That does not mean he will not keep trying and tempting, but every time you resist in the name of Jesus, the devil will flee.

So when addiction temptations start running through your mind, speak the Word of God aloud. Open your Bible or this list of Bible verses and start speaking them out loud. There is POWER in the name of Jesus and the devil holds no power against it. Memorizing some or all of these verses will enable you to fight effectively against every single temptation the moment that it raises its ugly head.

24. Call on the Lord

Then call on me when you are in trouble, and I will rescue you, and you will give me glory.” Psalm 50:15

As you walk the road toward addiction recovery, there will never be a time when God is too busy to help you. Whether at two in the afternoon or two in the morning, He will come to your rescue.

And He deserves all the glory for rescuing because you know all too well that you cannot rescue yourself. You have tried more times than you can count to save yourself from addictive behavior, but your sinful nature has been a relentless stumbling block.

Yet when you call on the Lord, there is no stumbling block that God cannot blast out of the way to rescue you every single time.

25. Freedom in Christ

So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” John 8:36

What a perfect verse to wrap up our list of Bible verses to overcome addiction. When Jesus sets you free from your addiction, it’s freedom from the inside out. He transforms your mind, which changes your future behavior to live a God-honoring life.

A mind set free by Christ experiences new life that can only come from Him. Keep fighting the good fight against addiction with His Word and the power of His Name. 

Conclusion

Take heart! You have started your journey toward overcoming addiction, which is very brave indeed. On those days that you feel discouraged or defeated, keep these verses close by. Keep the Word of God on your lips and His name in your prayers. And when He sets you free, you will be free indeed.

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50 Best Happy Birthday Wishes For Pastor’s Wife

Whether you know your pastor’s wife very well or just met her, wishing her “Happy Birthday” on her special day will bring a beautiful smile to her face.  

Her birthday is a special time to lift her up and shower the love of God on her for the coming year.

Here are 50 well wishes to provide inspiration for you to bless her with on her birthday!

#1 You are such a beautiful example of a life well served in Christ. May God give you continued good health to keep shining His light. Happy birthday to an exceptional lady!

#2 You may not have anticipated this calling to be a pastor’s wife, but God has equipped you for this noble work. As you embrace this new year in your life, I pray that God’s love meets you at every turn. Happy birthday!

#3 You are loved! May the light of the Lord fill your heart as you celebrate this day that He unveiled you to the world. Your guidance lights the way for so many on their journeys of faith. My God bless you and keep you always all the days of your life. Happy birthday!

#4 I want you to know that I understand that your calling as a pastor’s wife is hard and can get lonely. But you are standing on the Rock of Ages! I pray that the good Lord grants you the desires of your heart and much more. Have a blessed Birthday!

#5 May the light of God’s life continue to be the best gift that you receive this year. I celebrate you and praise God for your long life. May the Lord bless you on this day, and always. Happy birthday!

#6 My birthday prayer for you is that God will faithfully provide helpers to you who love you unconditionally, find joy praying for you, and commit to walking alongside you. Happy Birthday today!

#7 Wishing you God’s grace and His exceptional birthday blessings to you today. I pray your heart is filled and overflowing with the joy of the Lord, and the power of the Holy Spirit. Happy Birthday!

#8 You have one of the most difficult callings that exist: a pastors wife. You are a spiritual teacher for so many who are at different stages in their spiritual journeys. I admire your energy, your strength, and your commitment to this church and us. I thank the Lord Jesus for your selfless devotion to us. Happy birthday!

#9 Thank you, dear friend, for the joy you bring to so many. May you experience the radiant presence of God in you and through you, as you serve Him so faithfully. Happy birthday!

#10 I often neglect to tell you, but please know this: You are loved. You are beautiful. You are valuable. I pray only good things for you on your big day. Happy Birthday!

#11 Thank you for being a woman who loves the Word of God! May your birthday be filled with happy moments, love, and joy. God bless you and may He strengthen and protect you daily. Happy Birthday!

#12 Dearest Christian friend, you have helped me so much in my Christian walk by encouraging me along the way and keeping me moving forward. I pray that your birthday this year is a peaceful and memorable special occasion. I thank Jesus that you are in my life. Happy Birthday!

#13 Happy birthday to an extraordinary pastor. You are a gift from God to His people and your faithful service will be rewarded as you serve with love and grace. Happy Birthday!

#14 Happy birthday, Pastor! With your infinite compassion, wise advice, and the Godly example you always set, you go above and beyond, and I am so thankful. Happy Birthday!

#15 I just wanted to tell you that I am praying for your body, your soul, your ministry, and your family, especially on your birthday. I support you and the selfless work you do in our church and in our community. I hope you have a Happy Birthday!

#16 May your birthday be a refreshing fountain of joy to your soul. May the Lord pour out the riches of His grace in your heart and fill your cup to be overflowing. Happy birthday!

#17 Thank you for being ever-present for your congregation when we need a helping hand or a word of wisdom. It means so much that you are there for us, and are praying for us. Happy birthday!

#18 It’s a pleasure to be in a congregation with a pastor who has as much integrity and biblical knowledge as you do. I pray that you have a birthday filled with all the blessings and joy you could ever imagine. Happy Birthday!

#19 Happy birthday, to a pastor who is caring, wise, and a shining example of Godly compassion. My family is so thankful for all that you do. Happy Birthday!

#20 I pray that you have a birthday filled with blessings, joy and heavenly love, Pastor. Thank you for dedicating your life to growing and strengthening Jesus’ flock. Happy Birthday!

#21 May your birthday be filled with all the blessings, love and compassion that you spread each and every day to all of us. Happy birthday!

#22 You’re more than a pastor. You’re a mentor, friend, and source of great comfort and wisdom in times of worry. Happy birthday!

#23 May your birthday be filled with all the joy and warmth you give to those around you each day. We’re truly blessed to have you as our pastor. Happy Birthday!

#24 Wishing a sweet and wonderful birthday to a pastor who is caring and kind. Thank you so much for filling our hearts with joy. Happy Birthday!

#25 Wishing a day filled with happiness, joy, and love to the first lady of our Church! Your good works and good heart are beautiful reflections of Jesus. Happy birthday!

#26 On your special day, I want to thank you for all the guidance and wisdom you’ve given to me throughout the years. I pray that God’s peace is present every day of your life. Happy birthday!

#27 Your wisdom, compassion, and strength are a much-needed example for us all. You’re so caring, selfless, and kind. I pray every blessing of God on you as your birthday gift. Wishing you a very Happy Birthday!

#28 I am so very blessed to call you a friend! You always have the right words and Bible verses to share at just the right times. I am thanking God for you and am praying for you on your birthday. I look forward to seeing you in church! Happy Birthday!

#29 You are a woman of the Word, deliberate and purposeful, kind, compassionate and thoughtful, a burden sharer and bearer, and the Lord’s battle axe. I commend you to God, and to the word of His grace, which is able to build you up. Happy Birthday!

#30 May goodness and mercy accompany you today and all the days of your beautiful life. I pray that God blesses you with many meaningful chapters over this next year of life. Happy Birthday!

#31 Happy birthday to a woman with listening ears and a cheerful spirit. May your days be long and your years be crowned with glory. Happy birthday!

#32 I want to thank you for your kindness and the love that you always share. Your friendship has enriched my life and I appreciate your support. I hope your day is full of happiness and special memories. Happy Birthday!

#33 My special birthday wish is that the grace of the Lord covers you like beautiful robes of His love and strength. Happy birthday!

#34 I want to thank you for all the years of love, support, and friendship. There is no one I’d rather have by my side in the good times or bad. My life is a little brighter because you are in it. Have a blessed and Happy Birthday!

#35 You’re an inspiration to everyone that you encounter. As you celebrate another year today, may your life continue to inspire people to Christ. Happy birthday!

#36 Thank you for making the church home for me. Being so far away from my family, I’m thankful to Jesus Christ that I found a place where I truly feel like I belong. Happy birthday!

#37 I’m so grateful that God brought you into my life. Each year I have the opportunity to celebrate another year with my best friend. You are the most beautiful person on the inside and out, and I can’t wait to see what God has in store for you in the years to come. Lovely Birthday wishes for a lovely lady!

#38 May you continue to enjoy victory on all sides of life because of Christ Jesus. Your tireless efforts in our church community have truly made this place home for many, including me. Happy birthday!

#39 To an amazing woman of God, you are the epitome of humility and beauty both inside and out. I wish you many more blessings and best wishes over this next year. Happy birthday!

#40 I can’t believe how lucky I am that God put you in my life. You are so special, so loving, and warm-hearted. God’s Word just flows out of you like living water to a parched soul. I can’t think of anyone who deserves to be as happy on their birthday as you do. Happy Birthday!

#41 Today I get to celebrate you! I cherish the wonderful times and joys we have shared over the years. You are a blessing to me and all of our church members. Happy birthday!

#42 I know that God is already turning hard situations around for good and making ways where there seem to be none. I pray that God’s blessings flow like a faucet over your life today. You deserve it! Happy birthday!

#43 You may not know it, but your kindness and Christ-like actions have spurred me to chase after the Lord. Thank you for your exemplary leadership and transparent joy. You are a blessing! Happy birthday!

#44 May God enrich your life like never before. On this special day, I pray that you experience unending blessings and much joy as you celebrate another year of the Lord’s favor. Happy birthday!

#45  The very first time we met the Lord’s love just poured out of you. Your kind words, selfless service, and joy-filled praises have been a special blessing in my life and to everyone who walks into our church. I pray God’s abundant love overflows into your life today. Happy Birthday!

#46 How has another year already gone by? I pray that many wonderful things come your way today because you Christ is the constant source in your life. Happy Birthday!

#47 The best thing about today is the fact that I get to tell you what a wonderful person you are! You inspire me to greater heights because Jesus shines so brightly from you. I pray God’s abundant blessings over your special day. Happy Birthday!

#48 I am so thankful that God brought us together as friends! Your relentless pursuit of excellence in the Lord is such a beautiful example to me and everyone you meet. The love of Christ flows out of you and I pray today that it overflows in your life. Happy Birthday!

#49 This year has been a tough one for you, yet no one would know it. You faithfully show kindness and love even when it is not reciprocated. I pray that this next year of life is full of joy and lots of love. You deserve every bit of it. Jesus has your back and so do I. Happy Birthday!

#50 It is such a joy to call you my dear friend and sister in Christ! You shine the light of Christ so beautifully. Your kind welcome to everyone who walks into our church makes all the difference. I pray every blessing on you today and every day. Happy Birthday!

The Truth About Being a Pastor’s Wife

These dedicated women gracefully stand silently in the shadows while people clamor for their husband’s attention while we may not even acknowledge their presence.

Pastors’ wives live in glass houses where we notice every fingerprint, yet they faithfully keep those windows clean by extending forgiveness that we often don’t deserve.

When we unjustly criticize their husband or how he runs the church — even when it’s so nasty that there should be a smackdown right there in the narthex — they smile graciously and assure us gently that they will pass along our concerns.

They often volunteer for tasks in the church that no one else wants to tackle — often areas they are not gifted for — yet they trudge faithfully ahead while we slander their efforts.

These amazing women long to help the multitudes alongside their husbands and willingly lay down their very life for the beautiful body of Christ. 

And some days that makes her very, very tired.

God’s Promises to a Pastor’s Wife

Her calling is hard and it can get lonely, but she is standing on the Rock.

God will faithfully provide helpers to her who love you unconditionally, find joy praying for her, and commit to walking alongside her — whether inside or outside her church.

And since you want to wish her a Happy Birthday, perhaps you are one of those wonderful encouragers that will bless her with your birthday card. God bless you!

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Why is God Making Me Wait for a Husband or Wife?

As someone who has been single, married, and single again, I can tell you firsthand that your single years matter. A lot. Like the Apostle Paul, you need a clear vision of the mindset and purpose of your single years.

God’s Word has much to say about singleness. In fact, Scripture refers to singleness as a gift. But why would God give you a gift that you may not want? 

Simply this: what we want is not always what is best for us right now. And what’s best for us is not something we always value and appreciate when we have it. 

You are single today. That may change one day. But what can you value and appreciate about your singleness right now?

Biblical View

What God has to say about your season of singleness is intended to affect the way you live. How you operate. What you focus on. Here’s how Paul put it:

I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” 1 Corinthians 7:7-9

You may read that and determine that you fall squarely in the “burn with passion” category. Bring on the future spouse! And that’s perfectly fine. That longing to pair up for as long as you both shall live is Genesis 2 stuff! It’s a godly longing.

However, there is much more to marriage than a romantic relationship. Even though sex with your spouse may be the best thing you do on a given day, it will not be how you spend the vast majority of your time as a married couple. 

You are single now and God calls it a gift. Why?

Singleness is a Gift from God

If your single season has lingered for years, you may start to wonder if God’s way for your life got misplaced on His heavenly “to-do” list.

As a Christian, you believe that God’s plan is perfect. However, you may struggle between the desires of your heart and God’s timing. 

The longer that you remain single, you may start to resent the gift of singleness. Perhaps you have always wanted children. You want to start a family and simply get on with the rest of your life with your true love. So again, why would God ordain singleness? 

Paul directly answers that burning question: “I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 7:34b-35

Two specific reasons are given for your single years: (1) to promote good order, and (2) to secure an undivided devotion to the Lord. Let’s look closely at those reasons.

To Promote Good Order

The Amplified Version says it like this: “to promote what is appropriate.” Appropriate is defined as that which is suitable or fitting for a particular occasion. What is appropriate for your single years?

What is “appropriate” fits the context of a given circumstance. Inappropriate would be wearing a string bikini at a family Christmas dinner with grandma. Nothing wrong with bikinis, but it’s inappropriate in that circumstance’s context.

In your singleness, God wants to promote what is appropriate in your context and environment. Counseling couples regarding marriage problems when you have no real-life experience does not fit your life’s context. What is your environment according to Scripture? 

This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For the present form of this world is passing away.” (1 Corinthians 7:29-31, ESV)

Your environment is a fallen world. God reminds us here that being single or married is not the main storyline of your life. Sharing the hope of Jesus is every believer’s main storyline.

God is on the move to seek and save the lost. God sent His one and only Son Jesus Christ to provide certain hope for eternal life with Him. And He will leverage every season of every believer to accomplish it — including your season of singleness.

To Secure Your Undivided Devotion to the Lord

Single women and single men have a unique purpose. This life season is the appropriate time to develop a strong relationship with Christ without distraction. As a beloved child of God with His Holy Spirit active inside of you means living in a different way. 

Have you spent significant time in prayer ascertaining God’s call on your life? Singleness offers more free time than any other group of people, regardless of age. 

Whether you are twenty or eighty, now is the perfect time to devote a significant part of your energy to serving the Lord.

The Dating Process

Head into dating understanding that it is a process. It is not a social media “status” that you sit in for endless years. Dating is intended to progress you through the next step to finding that life partner. 

Dreaming of marriage is a godly pursuit so diligence in finding a godly man or godly woman is vital. 

However, if you spend endless hours scrolling through online Christian singles dating sites or hours at the local bar, ask yourself: Am I as diligent in investing that much time and energy to seek an intimate relationship with the Son of God?

Dating is great, but dating is distracting. Looking for the right person means being very aware of how you look, smell, and sound to the opposite sex. 

It’s no wonder that churches long ago sat women on one side of the church and men on the other! It can be hard to worship God wholeheartedly when a cute possibility sitting next to you smells fantastic.

Only God Meets All of Your Needs

Our culture is far more concerned about a person’s relationship status than the state of a person’s soul. Just look at any social media channel. 

It is alarming when someone says, “I’m looking for someone to complete me and make me whole.” It is emotionally, mentally, and spiritually dangerous when we look for a prince or princess to do what our King can do.

But you may be asking, “Can’t I serve the Lord married? My spouse and I will seek after God together! Why do I have to be single?” 

As a single person, you have much more discretionary time than a married person. Your waiting period holds a high calling and the clock is ticking. As Paul said, singleness is intended to secure an undivided devotion to the Lord. So, is it different for men versus women?

The Single Woman

 “The unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:34b)

There will be all kinds of things that please your husband that you have never had to worry or care about before that go beyond sexual intimacy. There may be a steep learning curve to manage his expectations. 

He may enter into marriage assuming that you will do certain things that his mom used to do for him, like cook a hot meal three times a day and keep a perpetually spotless home. He may expect you to be a financial co-earner, yet also be a PTA mom, carpool queen, and homework helper all while wearing high heels.

Marriage is great, but it can certainly be distracting. Paul reminds unmarried women to be anxious about things of the Lord without distraction. Your single season contains a significant purpose.

The Single Man

I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided.” (1 Corinthians 7:32-34a)

Similar to above, there will be all kinds of things that please your wife that you have never had to worry or care about that go beyond sexual intimacy. There may be a steep learning curve to manage her expectations, as well. 

She may enter into marriage assuming that you will provide financially like her father used to which allows for a certain lifestyle, like new cars, a big house, and exotic vacations. 

She may expect you to be the sole breadwinner while she remains at home with the children, yet also expects you to make time to attend all of your children’s sporting events, be home all weekend, and be consistently emotionally supportive.

Marriage is great, but it can certainly be distracting. Paul reminds unmarried men to be anxious about things of the Lord without distraction. Your single season contains a significant purpose.

It may sound like I am poo-pooing marriage. Not at all. I loved being married, sharing life, and cherishing that special someone. However, there is a tendency in every human being to devalue the benefits of their life stage and inflate the benefits of another. 

Don’t miss out on the benefits of your singleness that you will not have as a married person. Longing for something that God may or may not have ordained for your life is a thief of joy. 

Unique Benefits of Singleness

What you have now as a single person is freedom and time. Those are valuable resources that God gives to you in your singleness that will significantly decrease with marriage and parenting. So how will you leverage your freedom and time?

Being single again has allowed me the time to write a dozen Christian books and the freedom to travel the world to teach from Scripture. The vast majority of my discretionary time is spent studying God’s Word, researching for my next Bible study, and devoting significant prayer toward both.

A wonderful friend of over 25 years is nearing sixty years old and has remained single. Though she wanted to be married, she did not sit in a corner and mourn her life away. She is a smart professional and sold-out follower of Jesus who volunteers her free time to help others in various ways.

Your freedom has a purpose. Not to fill your time with distractions, but to pursue an undistracted devotion to the Lord.

What Defines Your Singleness?

Paul says that the unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. The unmarried woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. 

So the million-dollar question is simply this: Does that define your singleness?

As you take stock of how you spend your days and what you focus energy toward, is pursuing an undistracted devotion to the Lord at the top of your list?

If you find yourself frustrated in your singleness, you are missing the point of why you are single. It would be like playing golf without clubs. It’s confusing and doesn’t make sense. 

The most content single people I have ever met are the ones who understood that the purpose of their singleness was to secure an undistracted devotion to the Lord.

What Does Undistracted Devotion Look Like?

One of the daily practices that I have done for years is to write out books of the Bible. I type like the wind, think fast, and read fast, so I realized that the only way God’s Word would sink in past the blur was to slow down and handwrite books of the Bible a little bit at a time.

I also keep a journal. Even though daily events may slip in, the purpose of that journal is to reflect on what the Lord is teaching me. Where is He drawing my focus? What Bible passages does He keep bringing to mind? How do those things fit together? Where is He leading me?

I serve the Lord in my local congregation. Whether it’s teaching Bible class, serving refreshments as the need arises, attending women’s Bible classes, or partnering in mission work, God gives me great joy and fulfillment in the godly community of my church.

I carve out time to attend lectures at a local theological library. My podcast library is full of sermons by gifted teachers of God’s Word. My playlist is full of worship music that fuels my soul and prompts me to look up to the Lord.

I have been single again for thirteen years. I am more content, fulfilled, and at peace in the Lord than at any other time in my life bar none. 

I do not know if God has planned a happy marriage to a good Christian man for my future. But I know this beyond any shadow of doubt: if singleness defines the rest of my time on earth, it will be a rich blessing because I understand the purpose of my singleness.

Is Singleness More Spiritual?

The Apostle Paul offers this wisdom: “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:8-9).

You may determine that you’re burning with passion and it is your heart’s desire to pursue marriage intently. Or you may determine that you want to serve the Lord without distraction for the rest of your life and are open to remaining single. Jesus said this to His disciples: 

The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it” (Matthew 19:10-12).

If God has called you to singleness, He will give you the grace to receive and endure it. Like Jesus. Like Paul. Like me.

If God has called you to marriage, He will give you the grace to receive and endure it. Like Peter. Like your parents.

God’s Love and Wisdom

It is vital to grasp the bigger picture of the kingdom of God: “And we know that for those who love God, all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).

All things include your season of singleness. If you believe that the Bible is true and accurate, you know that your heavenly Father is the embodiment of love and wisdom. He only desires good things for you. He has called you for a purpose, whether single, married, widowed, or divorced.

You can trust anything that comes from God’s hand. That includes your singleness, your love life, and any future relationship. Whether or not God has a future marriage in store for you, His good reasons will bring about great things.

The Bottom Line

An honest assessment of your spiritual life may reveal that God needs to do serious work in you before bringing a future husband or future wife into the mix. If so, hit pause on the dating game. 

Take six months to get your relationship with God right first. Invest your freedom and time living Romans 12:2: “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

You may believe that your single season has dragged on far too long. Yet as a Christ follower, you know that God has your best interests in mind. 

Use this single season to develop an undistracted devotion to Him. That heavenly investment will significantly increase your life’s value.

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About the Author
Although Donna is a sought-after Bible teacher, her path from being unchurched to becoming passionate about sharing Jesus was not easy. Go here to read her God-breathed journey, “From Unchurched to Becoming a Multi-Published Author and Sought-After Speaker.” If you want to send Donna a quick message, then visit her contact page here.

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Scripture From Scratch: New Bible Study Tool (Free Downloads)

The entire Bible is more accessible than at any other point in history. Yet “How to Study the Bible” is searched online over 8,500 times each month. Access to the Word of God is not the issue. However, knowing it is a huge issue. So how do you start studying the Bible?

Scripture from Scratch

Table of Contents

Where to Start Reading the Bible
Why is Knowing Scripture Important?
Start with Prayer
13 Methods to Study Scripture

The best place to start studying the Bible is the Gospels. These four books are firsthand accounts of Jesus’ life and ministry from those who walked with Him. Let’s look at some helpful, practical study knowledge and practices.

Where to Start Reading the Bible

Here is a brand new resource hot off the ministry press to print out and tuck into your Bible: Scripture From Scratch. Reading and familiarizing yourself with the Gospels is an excellent starting place in the Bible and this resource will help tremendously.

The first installment of Scripture From Scratch includes study outlines for the Gospels. Each book’s outline includes the time period it was written, the author, and how many chapters. It also includes the birth, ministry, death, and resurrection of Jesus, and what makes that Gospel unique compared to the other three.

These one-page study outlines provide helpful, basic information on each of the four Gospels. They are handy reference guides to share with anyone who studies the Bible–whether you are brand new to Bible study or have been studying for years. 

More outlines and in-depth material in the Scripture From Scratch series will be released throughout 2023, so stay tuned! 

For new Christians or as a refresher for those steeped in the Christian faith, these outlines can be printed out and tucked into your Bible for handy reference. And share them!

Why is Knowing Scripture Important?

I first started studying Scripture after becoming a Christian at age 23. I did not know anything about the BibleThere’s an Old Testament and a New Testament? You get the gist.

I felt that my basic questions were off-putting to mature Christians. I lacked a good starting point, a good study Bible, or even which first steps to take. Attending church was important, but getting involved in life groups, a small group, and surrounding myself with Christian friends was a game-changer.

Over the past thirty years, God has cultivated in my daily life solid tools to study, memorize and apply Scripture every day. Today, I am passionate about biblical literacy. Some of the methods below may work better for you than others. Try each one to discover your best method. It is time well spent for your soul.

First Things First: Start with Prayer

Scripture is God’s breath exhaled onto the page. Focusing your mind and thoughts on Him comes first and foremost. Always begin your study time with prayer.

The Holy Spirit in you will faithfully guide you, but perhaps start with a prayer similar to this one:

Dear Lord, as I open my Bible today, open my heart to hear your words of truth. I pray that your Word comes alive in me. Remove all distractions right now. Open my mind to gain understanding as your words heal, teach, inspire, convict, and restore my heart. Enable your words to take root, grow and blossom in my life. Bring your light of understanding and peace that passes all understanding. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Method #1: Study One Book of the Bible

Start with a small book from the New Testament as a solid foundation. The Gospel of John, or the books of James, 1 Peter, and 1 John are all a good start for new believers.

Plan to spend 3-4 weeks studying the book you have chosen. For the first time, read through the entire book to grasp the story. Then, read through and perhaps jot down some study notes to dig into later.

Look for themes that may be woven into the chapters. For example, the book of James contains an obvious theme of perseverance through hard circumstances. Grab a journal and write down the verses around each theme.

Also, make a note of life application principles within the book. In James, a clear life application is that words need to result in action. As you meditate on the themes and life application principles, allow God’s Word to speak to you personally. Where can those themes or applications apply to your life right now?

Method #2: Read Straight Through the Bible

Reading the Bible straight through allows us to “hear” it like Israel’s nomadic tribes. Each person did not have parchment, so the Bible stories were shared verbally.

Note that you do NOT have to start at the beginning of the Bible. The Bible contains 66 separate books compiled into one. You can start anywhere you like, just be sure to read all of them. Reading straight through allows you to hear the overarching story of the Bible.

Be sure to choose a Bible version that is easy to read. Let’s face it, if you don’t understand it, you won’t get far.

There are dozens of translations and different versions of God’s Word, but the King James version is probably the most difficult. For clear reading, I suggest the English Standard Version (ESV) or New Living Translation (NLT). Personally, I use an ESV Study Bible, but the best study Bibles are the ones that work for YOU.

This method allows us to see the overarching story of God’s goodness to His children from Genesis to Revelation. His passionate, relentless pursuit of us toward salvation comes across with beautiful clarity.

I have many different Bible reading plans for free download here.

Method #3: Write Out Parts of the Bible

Our culture moves at lightning speed. Since we are technologically driven (for the most part), we desire things to move fast – such as food, lines, and traffic.

Absorbing Scripture into the marrow of our bones takes time. Breathing space. Quiet time. That’s where grabbing a pen, your Bible and a journal plays a vital role. The rhythm of physically writing slows us down to absorb the words. They stick with us past the moment – especially if you want to memorize particular verses.

As an author, I love the steady cadence of writing out God’s Word. That cadence resounds in my soul to retain those life-giving words.

Make writing fun! I love using my favorite Tul pens and a variety of colorful journals that are readily available and inexpensive.

Method #4: Character Study

One of the most frequently asked questions is who’s who in the Bible. The follow-up question is usually why does it matter?

I love reading current biographies of historical great men and women because they lend insight into the person. Doing character studies throughout Scripture accomplishes much the same.

For instance, Scripture only contains two books named after women: Ruth and Esther. My study quest to understand Esther turned into a full-blown, published Bible study. Talk about an amazing woman of faith that God used mightily!

Studying characters matters because their examples teach us much about living a life of faith. As you study each character, you will see how God moved in their life. How He provided for their needs, disciplined them toward success, and loved them beyond measure. He still does that today with you and me.

Method #5: Topical Bible Study

This is similar to the Character Study method listed above. However, instead of a person, pick a topic. Temptation, peace, addiction, and forgiveness are a few that could be tackled.

I remember as a new Christian being confused by what it meant to be “quenched” or “hydrated” by the Lord. What does “living water” mean? Years later, I used this topical Bible study method and turned that personal quest into a Bible study called Quenched: Christ’s Living Water for a Thirty Soul.

What topic do you long to know more about in the Bible? Use the concordance in the back of your Bible to find where that topic appears in Scripture. Then grab a notepad.

Read and/or write down all of those passages. What does God teach about that topic? Are common misconceptions debunked? Most importantly, meditate on how God can apply those truths to your spiritual journey.

Quenched: Christ's Living Water for a Thirsty Soul by Donna Snow

Method #6: Memorize Scripture

Hiding God’s Word in our hearts is vital. When the enemy knocks us to the ground, God brings those verses to mind to comfort us and bring His peace.

One of the first portions of Scripture I memorized was the Armor of God from Ephesians 6:10-18. This evil in this world is evident – just turn on the evening news. As His children, we need to know God has protected us from head to toe. I wrote an entire Bible study on this topic.

If you are facing a particular battle right now start with verses that speak to that situation. If you are experiencing joyful circumstances, start with passages that praise God.

Yes, all of Scripture is worthy of memorization. However, focusing on ones that directly apply to your life situation will be more meaningful. Memorization will come easier.

Method #7: Bible Journaling (the SOAP method)

A vital step in our faith journey is applying Scripture to our lives. A popular, helpful method appeared a few years ago called “S.O.A.P.” It stands for Scripture, Observation, Application, and Prayer.

I used this method effectively when writing The God of All Comfort based on 2 Corinthians 1:3-7. Paul teaches how God comforts us in our affliction, which enables us to also offer His compassionate comfort to others.

This method is simple. Pick a section of Scripture each morning or evening during your devotion time. Using a notepad or SOAP journal:

  • Write down the Scripture passage
  • Read through it again and record your Observations
  • Jot down how you can Apply those truths in your life
  • Close with Prayer for God to make that verse personal to you

Method #8: Single Word Study

Have you ever wondered what the Bible says about fear? Love? Humility? Kindness? Such wondering offers a perfect opportunity to undertake a single-word study.

When I experienced divorce over a decade ago, I did not feel very loved (to say the least). One of my pastors challenged me to read through the Bible and write out every passage that talked about God’s love. WOW!

Navigating through the painful valleys of divorce is something I understand very well. If you need a Christian guide on how to survive and thrive, I suggest my book: Without This Ring.

That undertaking left me without a trace of doubt about how much God loves me, even when people may not. Writing all of those love passages consumed an entire journal. If I am ever feeling unloved, I still pull out that journal. I don’t feel unloved for long.

If you long to be more kind, I challenge you to search for every instance in Scripture where God talks about kindness. Write them out in a journal. Ask the Lord to enable you to be more kind. God will blow you away as He works through this discipline.

Method #9: Coloring Scripture (Bible Marginalia)

Bible marginalia appeared on the scene a few years ago and has exploded in popularity. If you are an artistic person, this method is a great tool. The premise is to meditate on a Bible verse as you highlight, color, and create art around it.

Friends of mine have launched a very popular Visual Faith® Ministry. There are hundreds of free downloads that include examples of how to highlight, color, and visually enhance your Bible reading experience.

The goal is to utilize the artistic gifts that God has given you to engage with and meditate on Scripture. Even though you are being artistic, be sure to keep in mind the main purpose. Meditate on that passage(s).

Method #10: Read Scripture Like a Novel

Right from Genesis 1, Scripture opens as an epic, cosmic tale about the heavens and the earth. We see God creating everything out of nothing. We see marital drama between Adam and Eve. Blessings and curses. Covenants. Promises. Murder. Adultery. Betrayal. War. Political subversion. Cinematic-worthy battles.

If you are a writer or wannabe screenwriter, simply look at the account of David’s battle with Goliath in 1 Samuel 17. You can’t make that stuff up. It flat-out reads like an award-winning novel.

There are main characters, metanarrative, and deep plot development that become clearer when reading the Bible like a novel. The settings are both intimate and dramatic. The important difference? Scripture is non-fiction.

The overarching message of the Bible becomes crystal clear: God’s love toward us never fails. If you love stories, read through the Bible like a novel. Mentally insert yourself into those stories. Visualize your surroundings. See how God challenges and rescues. Scripture comes alive!

Method #11: Pray Through the Psalms

As a new 20-something Christian struggling with how God could love someone like me, a godly mentor pointed me to the Psalms.

The Psalms verbalized the hurricane of words in my head that I could not explain. She suggested that I use the Psalms as a guideline for my prayer time. Verbalizing worries and concerns to the One who has the power to change them was a spiritual game-changer.

Every emotion that we experience can be found in the Psalms. Anger. Love. Bitterness. Praise. Confusion. Hurt. Thanksgiving. You name it, and it’s in the Psalms. The key to relating to the Psalms is putting yourself in the place of the psalmist. Read it aloud as if you were writing it from your own experience.

King David penned at least 73 of the psalms. He poured his heart out to God in his writing. And as he wrote, God’s peace and comfort would surround him.

The Psalms are also infused with worship. Worship was an integral part of the Israelite’s worship and find great value in our worship even today. If your circumstances leave you without words to worship, speak those worship Psalms aloud.

Method #12: Utilize Your Love of Geography

Understanding the geography around Biblical stories adds an important layer to studying Scripture. Years ago, a friend gave me a Bible Atlas as a birthday gift and it is never far from reach.

When you realize that the Sea of Galilee is only eight by twelve, we can understand how the crowds could track Jesus’ boat as they followed Him along the shore to experience the miraculous feeding of the five thousand (Matthew 14:13-21).

I regularly lead tours through the Holy Land. One of the comments that people repeatedly say is that they had no idea about the proximity of some locations to others. For instance, Magdala, Tiberius, Capernaum, and the Mount of Beatitudes can be seen from an anchored boat on the Sea of Galilee.

If you love maps, this is a very effective method of diving deeper into Scripture. Grab a Bible atlas, pick a story from Scripture, and track the character’s movements. I have spent many hours lost in the pages of that Bible atlas seeing Scripture come to life through geography.

Qumran, Israel

Method #13: Use Bible Flash Cards

Flash cards are not just for school kids. As a bona fide lifelong learner, flashcards are an invaluable way to study Scripture.

When my Forgiveness Bible study was released, the publisher had the brilliant idea of offering Scripture cards with any purchase. I still keep those cards close by as a reminder to keep short accounts. Life is short. Forgiveness is commanded. In fact, here is a free downloadable reading plan on forgiveness to tuck into your Bible.

If you are new to the Bible in general, there are flashcards for learning the books of the Bible, significant characters, and even the timeline. This method is a great resource if you do not have much time each day for in-depth study.

The Bottom Line

The Bible is our only true source of wisdom and knowledge. Regular studying of God’s Word provides a firm foundation to grow and strengthen your faith. It is life-giving and life-changing.

Remember to give yourself some grace in your study of the Bible. You are learning the spiritual riches of a personal relationship with the Son of God. It takes a lifetime. Above all, diligent Bible study will remind you time and again of the assurance of salvation through Jesus Christ alone.

Amen.

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About the Author

Although Donna is a sought-after Bible teacher, her path from being unchurched to become passionate about sharing Jesus was not easy. Go here to read her God-breathed journey, “From Unchurched to Becoming a Multi-Published Author and Sought-After Speaker.” If you want to send Donna a quick message, then visit her contact page here.

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Best Books of the Bible to Read First

Spending time in the Word of God is so important to growing your faith. If you’re a new Christian or just new to Bible study, you have probably wondered where to start reading the Bible. Let’s dive right in.

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Table of Contents

  1. What Book of the Bible Should I Read First?
  2. New Testament
  3. Old Testament
  4. How to Read the Whole Bible

What Book of the Bible Should I Read First?

The best place to start reading the Bible is the Gospel of John. John was written decades after the other Gospels and provides an extraordinary account of the ministry and testimony of Jesus Christ.

While people vary on answering the best order in which to read the stories of the Bible, there are definitely better places to begin than others. The story of the Bible is an epic, life-changing adventure. Congratulations on starting that journey!

Why are Some Books a Better Place to Start Than Others?

I became a Christian at age 23 and had never read the Bible. Not once. Starting with Leviticus would have put me to sleep, and starting with Revelation would have freaked me out.

Now thirty-two years later, I study those books as part of God’s inspired Word. However, I do not recommend either one as the best option to start your reading journey. Understanding the Bible will be an incredible, life-long endeavor.

My point is not to provide another Bible reading plan. Although they are very useful (like this Chronological Bible Reading Plan that I’m currently walking through), for new Christians trying to understand the first things about Scripture we need to skip around a bit.

The best reason to start reading the Bible is to gain a better understanding of the greatest story ever told. God’s pursuit of mankind is the greatest love story ever written. Jesus’ death on the cross was the most beautiful sacrifice ever given. His resurrection means the difference between eternal life and eternal torment.

New Testament Books

The New Testament is the best place to start reading the Bible because we learn about our Savior Jesus Christ. The entirety of God’s Word points toward Jesus. Understanding the life of Jesus, how much He loves us, and His mission to offer us new life is vital to our faith walk. Consequently, the Gospels (the first four books of the New Testament) are a great place to start.

1. Gospel of John

John is my favorite Gospel and one of my favorite books in the entire Bible. The book of John is a masterpiece of literature and theology. It provides an extraordinary account of the ministry and testimony of Jesus Christ.

Ninety percent of John’s Gospel is unique from the other three (or Synoptic) Gospels. Since John’s Gospel was written decades after the other three Gospels, the Apostle provides a more rounded and relatable picture of our Savior.

While the other three Gospels focus on the works and words of Jesus, John provides an exalted portrait of Jesus’ love and His deity as the Son of God. The miracles, lessons, and parables of Jesus are chronicled, as well as His life, death, and resurrection.

One of the most universally recognized Bible verses is found in John’s Gospel: “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16, ESV).

2. Romans

Romans was penned by the Apostle Paul and conveys essential Christian doctrine and beliefs. Why is that important?

Before Paul’s encounter with the resurrected Jesus on the road to Damascus, Paul persecuted Christians. Formerly known as Saul of Tarsus, He did not believe Jesus’ message and was zealous in stamping out His followers. Paul was a Jew who learned the Gospel from ground zero and became a passionate follower of Jesus who wrote much of the New Testament.

I can relate to the Apostle Paul starting at ground zero and perhaps you can, too. In Romans, we see the essential teachings of Christianity and its mission, as well as justification by faith alone through Christ’s righteousness alone.

My favorite verses in Romans are: “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39, NIV).

3. Book of Ephesians

The book of Ephesians was also written by the Apostle Paul. At its core, Ephesians teaches us how to live a holy life empowered by the Holy Spirit. Ephesians is a short book containing only 6 chapters, but it is absolutely dynamic and uplifting to read. Especially for new believers.

Ephesians begins with a beautiful explanation of the spiritual blessings given through Christ to all believers, including adoption as sons and daughters, redemption, forgiveness, and Baptism that unites all Christians.

Paul teaches about the beautiful grace of God, contrasted with what Christians can expect in spiritual warfare. Spiritual warfare and the protection God gives us against it is so important to understand that I wrote an entire 8-week Bible study on Ephesians 6:10-18 called “Your Strong Suit.”

My favorite verses in Ephesians are: “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God” (Ephesians 2:8, ESV).

4. Book of Philippians

Also penned by the Apostle Paul, the book of Philippians teaches us how to have joy during trials. We can certainly relate to needing joy in our post-pandemic world.

Paul experienced one of the most famous conversions in the history of Christianity and experienced severe persecution for his faith. He endured more physical persecution than any other disciple of Jesus in the New Testament. Reading through 2 Corinthians 11:23-28 where Paul lists these atrocities is sobering, indeed.

My favorite verses in Philippians are: “But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ” (Philippians 3:7-8, ESV).

Note: An honorable mention in this “top 4” list to read in the rest of the New Testament is the Book of Acts. Written by Luke, Acts reveals how the first-century Christian church was started and the incredible faith of the early Church. It is inspiring, to say the least!

Old Testament Books

1. Book of Psalms

The book of Psalms is one of the most quoted, loved books in the Bible and is my favorite book. The book of Psalms is the songbook of the Hebrew people–recalling their joy, sorrow, and hope over hundreds of years. The Psalms show us how to praise the Lord and pray authentically.

This book is important because it contains gut-wrenching honesty, raging anger, and heartbreaking confession – things you and I can relate to today. Yet we also find God’s beautiful redemption, forgiveness, and grace in the pages of the Psalms – things you and I desperately need today. King David, Israel’s greatest king, wrote 73 of the 150 psalms.

Psalms is a good place to start reading in the Old Testament because the psalms are simple and heartfelt. Some short, some long. Reading them reassures us that we are seen, known, and loved exceedingly by the God of the universe.

Psalm 139 is my favorite psalm: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well” (Psalm 139:13-14, ESV).

2. Book of Genesis

The first book of the Bible is another great place to start reading the Bible. In Genesis, we learn about creation, the beginning of time, and the need of all humanity for a Savior.

We meet the great Patriarchs, who were the founders of the nation of Israel. We also witness how God raises up one faithful man, Abraham, to populate the earth and bring about the rescue of the whole world.

My favorite verses are the first two because they start this whole epic story: “In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. The earth was without form and void, and darkness was over the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the face of the waters. And God said, ‘Let there be light,’ and there was light” (Genesis 1:1-3, ESV).  

3. Book of Proverbs

The book of Proverbs contains 31 chapters full of wisdom regarding how to live a good, God-honoring life. And bonus – since it has 31 chapters, you can read a chapter each day of the month.

Proverbs expertly contrasts wisdom and folly. We certainly see our fair share of folly in our culture today. Here we find guidance to deliver us from self-destruction and instruct us on how to live wise lives that honor God.

My favorite passage in Proverbs is: “For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. He holds success in store for the upright, he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless, for he guards the course of the just and protects the way of his faithful ones” (Proverbs 2:6-8, NIV).

4. Ecclesiastes

The book of Ecclesiastes is both instructive and intriguing. Written by King Solomon toward the end of his life, he offers first-hand wisdom regarding how the success of this world holds no real significance in light of eternity.

Solomon was the wealthiest man who ever lived and had every worldly comfort imaginable. Yet his foolish decisions hastened his destruction as he discovered that not placing God at the center of his life was a huge mistake.

Yet, Ecclesiastes also reminds us that God provides for us in every season in His perfect time. It reveals that only God gives true wisdom and pursues us relentlessly to be in fellowship with Him. We can learn much from Solomon’s journey.

My favorite verse from Ecclesiastes: “For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, NLT).

How to Approach Reading the Whole Bible

It almost goes without saying that reading the Bible cover to cover is instrumental to our Christian life. Yes, it can be intimidating. When a friend gifted me with my first Bible, I remember thinking, “I’ve got to read this whole thing?” Not flattering, but truthful.

Written over a span of 1,500 years by 40 different authors, the Bible is the most important book ever written. Inspired by the Holy Spirit, the authors come from every walk of life. They wrote in times of war, peace, defeat, and victory.

There are prophetic books, difficult passages, and dozens of translations, yet the big picture reveals just how much God loves us. Once you read the books listed above, spend time in prayer about where God would have you read next as you work your way through the rest of the Bible.

What Version of the Bible is Best?

I read most often from the English Standard Version. Scholars have said that this translation most accurately reflects the original languages in which the Bible was written – yet uses modern language. I would not recommend the King James Version, since some of the language and terminology are not really used today and therefore hard to understand.

My favorite Bibles are:

Bottom Line

God gave us the Bible so that we would come to know Him and His Son Jesus Christ. If you are reading the Bible for the very first time, I envy your incredible journey of discovery. So grab your Bible, a journal, some Bible markers, a pen, and perhaps some Bible tabs for navigation – and DIG IN.

As you read the Bible, God will change your heart, life, and how you interact with others. Best of all, it will point you to saving faith in Jesus Christ.

God’s blessings as you dive in!

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Seven Powerful Truths About Biblical Self-Discipline

Many of us start a new year with a list of items or disciplines that we want to improve or initiate. Especially if we have faced years of struggle or defeat in particular areas of our life.

As Christians, we have been set apart to be holy for the Lord. He provides all of the tools for success. However, growth in personal holiness is largely determined by our commitment to self-discipline.

Some Christians view self-discipline as leaving God out of the equation. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, nothing could be more harmful. We cannot advance in grace without godly, foundational discipline.

Before other disciplines can be successfully administered, whether in our health, finances, relationships, or spiritual walk, self-discipline must come first.

What Does the Bible say about Self-Discipline?

Self-discipline is usually not a popular subject except in two scenarios: (1) a new year rolls over and we make resolutions to change or improve, or (2) we have succumbed to destructive sin that has resulted in harm to ourselves or others. However, self discipline is a good work that results in greater knowledge of God and His plan for our lives.

In our culture, and even among many Christians, reminders of self-discipline are resisted. Some go so far as to call it legalism or trampling our Christian liberty.

God’s Word is clear about the importance of personal discipline. Those who label such instruction of the Lord as restrictions to their freedom in Christ are choosing to put on a spiritual straightjacket instead of the armor of God.

Here are seven powerful truths that we need to understand about biblical discipline:

(1) What Is Self-Discipline?

The Greek word translated as “discipline” (enkrateia) comes from the root krat, which denotes power or lordship. Self-discipline means exercising power over one’s self. It is the ability to keep our inner desires, thoughts, actions, and words under control. Every believer is instructed to exercise this self-control over his or her own life (Gal. 5:23).

This power that we need comes from the Holy Spirit in us. The light of the Lord in every believer gives us all the power needed over darkness to master any type of discipline.

The next generation desperately needs to see living examples of how to embrace and flourish while following the discipline of the Lord. We can display vital, unspoken words of encouragement written on the canvas of a believer’s life who is wholly submitted to the Father’s instruction.

(2) What Self-Discipline Is Not

To best understand what self-discipline is, we need to grasp what it is not. The opposite of self-discipline is self-indulgence. We have all been there in one form or another. But the Word of God is clear: a self-indulgent lifestyle produces “the works of the flesh” (Gal. 5:19-21).

Sinful deeds are the inevitable result when we lack self-control. Self-discipline brings every thought, word, and deed captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Cor. 10:5). Any expectation of personal holiness and spiritual growth requires self-control.

Two Erroneous Views of the Christian Life

Two erroneous views of the Christian life—Pelagianism and semi-Pelagianism—distort the truth of self-discipline:

  1. Pelagius (AD 354–420) was a British theologian who taught that man has the inherent ability to both save and sanctify himself. He claimed that a person is able to accomplish godly behavior through their own sheer force of will — that mere knowledge of God’s will was all that was needed to discipline himself through sheer determination.
  2. A second erroneous view is semi-Pelagianism, which assumes that man has some ability or willpower to sanctify himself in partnership with God. In this joint venture, God and man are co-contributors to self-discipline. God gives a measure of grace, but man supplies the rest.

Pelagius was denounced as a heretic by the Council of Carthage (AD 418) for this fatal teaching and semi-Pelagianism was likewise declared heretical by the Western Church in the Second Council of Orange (AD 529).

Unfortunately, his thought process lingers with us. Many people today falsely believe that they can simply will themselves to be whatever they want to be. This erroneous dependence on our own inherent ability can lead to serious sin and God’s rod of correction.

Saint Augustine (AD 354–430) taught the truth from biblical text that God is the sole author of man’s salvation and sanctification. By His sovereign grace, God alone regenerates spiritually dead sinners. Augustinian teaching rightly understands that only God can produce authentic self-discipline in the believer.

The wise son or daughter of God realizes that spiritual discipline is key to resisting temptation and sin. Without self-discipline as a way of life, our spiritual lives are out of balance and subject to God’s discipline. The longer we neglect Christian discipline, the longer we prolong spiritual maturity.

Simply put, if we do not discipline ourselves through the Spirit’s strength in us, God Himself will discipline us (Heb. 12:5–11). One way or another, there will be discipline in our lives.

Given our tendency toward sin, disciplining ourselves for the purpose of godliness is a daily, if not hourly, struggle. Shirking this responsibility brings about the discipline of the Almighty.

(3) Who Produces Self-Discipline?

This virtue of self-control is given to every believer as a fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22–23). There are nine aspects of the fruit of the Spirit. Self-discipline occupies the final position, assuming a place of strategic importance.

In other words, self-discipline sums up the previous eight qualities. The work of the Spirit reaches its consummation in self-control.

As a vine produces fruit, self-discipline is created exclusively by the Spirit. Self-control is never self-generated; rather, it is a work of grace within us. Though we actively practice it, we simply bear this fruit of self-discipline.

As sap flows into the branch, producing fruit, divine grace must fill the believer, producing self-control. The self can never produce self-discipline. Only Christians living under the Holy Spirit’s guidance can live self-controlled lives.

(4) What Does Self-Discipline Look Like?

The Apostle Paul provides an outstanding visual for us. He compared our Christian journey to an athlete training for athletic competitions: “Everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in small things” (1 Cor. 9:25).

For a runner to be victorious, he must submit his entire life to the strict discipline of rigorous training. The athlete’s strenuous workout demands that he seriously restrict or even refuse individual freedoms. He must embrace a proper diet, sufficient rest, and intense training. Every area of his life must be brought under the Spirit’s control.

Paul adds, “I do not box as one beating the air” (1 Cor. 9:26). A champion boxer must have a clearly-focused aim in the ring, not wild punches that never land on his opponent. An undisciplined believer beats the air in his fight against sin.

Paul also warns that a champion athlete must beat his body into submission or be disqualified from the race: “But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest…I myself should be disqualified” (1 Cor. 9:27). He urges that we discipline our bodies to resist sinful desires or forfeit the prize.

(5) What Is the Price?

Believers have liberty in Christ to pursue what is not forbidden in Scripture. Just remember that victory always comes at a price. The Christian life is no different.

This necessitates that we exercise self-discipline in areas like health, sleep, time, money, and entertainment choices. Anything that hinders us from winning the prize has to go.

Exercising self-control means relinquishing control of our lives to Jesus Christ. That is the paradox: giving up the control of self allows us to gain self-control. God, in His great love for us, enables us to exercise self-discipline, an absolute necessity for victory over sin.

(6) Bible Verses To Focus On

There are no two ways around it: Bible study and hiding God’s Word in our hearts are key to spiritual disciplines of any kind. Neglecting this quiet time with our loving heavenly Father is a recipe for failure. Here are helpful verses for our journey:

  • Jesus maintained, “Apart from Me, you can do nothing” (John 15:5). In our own willpower, we cannot do anything that pleases God. Only by God’s enabling grace can we exercise self-control in our ongoing war against sin.
  • “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Phil. 4:13). That is, Christ must be mightily working within us.
  • Every Christian is responsible to pursue holiness, yet God must work within us to produce personal godliness (Phil. 2:13–14).
  • “We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ” (2 Cor. 10:5).
  • “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it” (Heb. 12:11).

(7) Practical Ways to Stay on Track

In this life, Christians face trials of many kinds – including a lack of discipline. But by the grace of God, He provides many tools that we can implement to stay on track. Here are a few very practical ways to make clear today:

(a) Begin with God

In the New Testament Paul simply states: “Train yourself for godliness” (1 Tim. 4:7). Embracing self-discipline (and pursuing holiness) translates into hearing biblical preaching and teaching, participating in corporate worship, the Lord’s Supper, regular Bible reading (download free plans here), meditation, prayer, and fellowship if we are to win the prize.

(b) Write Out a Plan

This means you need to have a plan in place. I use my calendar to ensure that proper time is allotted for Bible study, attending worship, and intentional prayer time.

Whatever system works for you is what will work for you. If you are OCD, perhaps cross-referenced, color-coded calendars are in your future.

Regardless of the method — phone reminders, calendars, or sticky notes on mirrors — utilize them to secure your plan. And follow it! Here is a guideline you might find useful.

(c) Solicit Accountability Partners

Accountability partners are always a good idea. When it comes to godly living and spurring each other toward self-discipline, each of us will struggle along the way.

Surrounding yourself with one or two solid accountability partners who will not let you off the hook is one of the most helpful and practical steps we can take.

One of my accountability partners pointed me to this book, “Atomic Habits“, that I have found extraordinarily helpful in my ongoing self-discipline journey.

Bottom Line

The most important place to start is on our knees. As one of God’s children, He alone gives us the grace and strength we need for self-discipline. We cannot generate it on our own. But what Scripture tells us is clear: when we seek God, we will find Him (Jer. 29:13).

His Word of truth will equip, sustain, and empower us to win the prize. There is nothing like that pure joy!

Amen.

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Does God Really Collect Our Tears in a Bottle?

The Philistines had captured David in Gath. And even though he was a prisoner of war during that difficult time, David penned these beautiful words: “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book” (Psalm 56:8, NLT).

Does God Really Collect our Tears in a Bottle?

David had every reason to cry and experience sorrow. He could have easily slung anger in God’s direction. Instead, he turned his face toward God to receive comfort.

But his words may raise a question. Did David mean that God used literal bottles as tear catchers, or was it simply a figure of speech?

It Takes a Lot of Tears to Fill a Bottle

Life happens, and as a result, so do tears. Whether we shed tears of joy or sadness or simply when God moves us in our soul, every tear holds meaning to Him. Pause to allow that truth to sink in for a moment. With seven billion plus people on the planet, God not only knows your name but notices each and every time you shed a tear.

In other words, our tears are not futile. They are not silly or a sign of weakness. Nor are they a waste of time as we impatiently desire to simply move on. Shedding tears reminds us of our humanity and vulnerability. We would be hard-pressed to recall every time we shed tears throughout our lifetime. But our heavenly Father remembers.

Tear Bottles in Antiquity

A quick history of the tear bottle in ancient Rome is in order. Around the time of Christ, Roman tear bottles were fairly common. Mourners in Roman times would capture their tears in small glass bottles and leave them in burial tombs as a symbol of respect.

Legend even says that during the Roman period sometimes women were paid to capture their tears in bottles as they accompanied the funeral procession of a deceased person. The more they cried and the more tears they captured, the more they were compensated, according to legend in biblical times.

Tear Bottles in the Victorian Era

Also known as lachrymatory bottles, tear bottles appeared once again during the 19th century in the Victorian era as a sign of mourning lost loved ones:

The Victorian era is also known for its fascination with death. Elaborate rituals surrounded the everyday occurrences of dying and grieving, and it was in this environment that tear bottles re-surfaced as a popular icon of grief and grieving.”

Tear Bottles During America’s Civil War

Since the U.S. Civil War happened during the Victorian era, the resurgence of a tear vial or tear jar goes hand-in-hand with that tragic time in our country’s history:

Stories of soldiers leaving their wives or new brides with a tear bottle can be found in the literature of the day. Some husbands are said to have hoped that the bottles with special stoppers would be full upon their return, as an indication of their wives’ devotion. Sadly, many of these men never made it back home.”

Is David’s Reference to God’s Tear Bottle Based on Fact?

As David endured that dark season in his life, he poured out the words of Psalm 56 to the Lord. Were David’s words simply wishful thinking, poetic language, or the fact that God actually bottles our tears?

Scholars generally agree that King David was using the metaphor of a small bottle to signify remembrance. By capturing the image of God catching our tears, we are reminded that God remembers and cares about our suffering.

In writing those words, David expresses a deep, abiding trust in God and His watch care over His children. Even when no one around us sees our tears, God sees each one. And David calls attention to that truth in the very next verse: “This I know, God is for me” (Psalm 56:9, ESV).

This I know. David knew that God was for him and never against him. As God’s beloved children, this we know, as well. Such knowing transcends the hurts and tears of this world to embrace the light and joy of eternity.

God is on Our Side

David initiated Psalm 56 with a guttural grasping for God amidst enemy attack: “Be gracious to me, O God, for man tramples on me; all day long an attacker oppresses me” (Psalm 56:1, ESV). That may describe you this very day. It has certainly described many of my days where I have lost count of my tossings. He keeps account of my wanderings.

Then David turns his attention from his attackers onto God: “In God I trust, I shall not be afraid. What can man do to me? (Psalm 56:11, ESV). Such comfort! Such truth!

The Apostle Paul reminds us of our ultimate enemy’s identity: “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places” (Ephesians 6:12, ESV).

The only One who can fight and defeat our ultimate enemy is God. And David knew that. God’s people are engaged in a battle in the spiritual realm requiring spiritual armor. Stepping on the battlefield in our own strength is a recipe for decimation.

So David turned his face and surrendered his sorrow to God alone. We do not know if David was in solitary confinement, but David knew that he was never alone. The God of the heavenly armies stood with him.

When We Suffer Because We Are His Disciples

If you have walked your faith journey for any length of time, you have experienced attack and sorrow simply because you follow Jesus Christ. In fact, Jesus took time in the New Testament to warn and encourage His disciples about that very fact:

  • Everyone will hate you because of me” (Luke 21:17, ESV).
  • For I will show him how much he must suffer for the sake of my name” (Acts 9:16, ESV).
  • Then they will deliver you up to tribulation and put you to death, and you will be hated by all nations for my name’s sake” (Matthew 24:9, ESV).

Such sorrow, loss, and suffering generate real tears. And as God’s image-bearers, Jesus feels our sorrow and is moved to tears: “Jesus wept” (John 11:35, ESV). The tears of our Lord speak volumes about His dispensation of grace. His dear friend, Lazarus, died. Jesus wept in that mourning period.

God may not have an actual bottle where He keeps our tears or a book of remembrance where He records our sorrows. However, He remembers all the things that happen in our lives, including the suffering endured for His sake.

Tears Speak Their Own Language

Tears speak a language all their own. They reveal what moves our souls. Tears of compassion often precede reaching out to help one another. Tears of joy often precede hugging the stuffing out of the nearest human being. Tears of sorrow often precede us straining after the soul comfort that only comes from God.

According to scientists, shedding tears is physically healthy: “Tears contain natural antibiotics called lysozymes. Lysozymes help to keep the surface of the eye healthy by fighting off bacteria and viruses. Because the cornea has no blood vessels, the tears also provide a means of bringing nutrients to its cells.”

What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul. For dirt, there is soap. For despair, there are tears. God does not forget the flood of sacred tears that have streamed down our cheeks. God remembers and sends His comfort without fail.

Our Future Tears

Our tears hold significant meaning for God. In fact, He goes so far as to reassure us: “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away” (Revelation 21:4).

God sees when we ugly cry. It is a direct result of living in this sinful world. But in the presence of our Savior, tears are replaced by eternal light and joy that never ends. Ever. In the New Heaven and the New Earth, crying, pain, and death will be replaced with happiness, joy, and love.

Jesus’ Ultimate Pain Offers Us Ultimate Freedom

When Jesus took our nails on the cross, He also took on all of our sins. Every sin we have committed, are currently committing and will commit for the rest of our lives.

For the glory of God, Jesus experienced great sacrifice to relieve us from the eternal burden of sorrow and separation from God. And on the third day, when God raised Jesus from the dead, He also offered the hope of forgiveness and restoration in Christ Jesus.

As long as God keeps us here on earth, we will experience the pain of this life. But we do not suffer without hope. And hope is the game-changer.

Take Heart

If you are experiencing hard times or if this season of dark times, take heart. God sees your pain. He feels the sorrow and depression you experience. Reach out to Him in prayer. Journal your thoughts and feelings.

And one day, He will faithfully remove all of it in the light of His glorious grace. Lifted by the wings of His love, there will be no more pain one day.

In the meantime, like David’s confidence in Psalm 56, we keep turning our faces to the Source of all comfort and hope in the midst of our suffering. My life verse speaks directly about this hope: “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen” (Hebrews 11:1).

When life crashes hard and the tears flow, O Lord, enable us to stand strong on the Rock of Ages. 

Amen.

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What Does the Bible Say About Adultery and Forgiveness?

It happened, late one afternoon, when David arose from his couch and was walking on the roof of the king’s house, that he saw from the roof a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful” (2 Samuel 11:2, ESV).

Old Testament: King David’s Sin of Adultery

He was supposed to be out with the army. That’s what 2 Samuel 11:1 says about King David. But he decided to stay home.

He took a stroll along the rooftop and saw a beautiful young woman taking a bath. And he decided was “all in.” The rest, as they say, is history.

David lusted. Bathsheba succumbed, even though she was a married woman. David had Bathsheba’s husband Uriah murdered so he could marry her. Their sexual relationship resulted in a child. But God did not forget what took place. The price of David’s sexual immorality was the death penalty for their child.

The Collateral Damage of Adultery

So much collateral damage from one person’s act of adultery. David mistakenly thought that defiling Bathsheba’s marriage bed was above the reproach, law, or reprimand of a king.

Are you and I any different when we believe we have ultimate sovereignty over our own lives?

Adultery plagues our world today. The Ten Commandments are treated as suggestions. Whether we know a family member or friend who has suffered a wayward spouse, infidelity will likely affect every human being at one point or another. 

Teachers feel the effects and consequences of adultery in their classrooms. Kids tend to act out or their grades suffer as they process the emotional hurricane caused by their parents’ divorces. Pastors’ and counselors’ schedules stay full as they walk the victims of adultery toward God’s healing.

I do not use the word “victim” lightly. That is what adultery feels like. I know. My ex-husband was a repeat offender. The one person to whom you opened your heart, body, and mind decided on some level that you were insufficient. Whether that insufficiency stems from within or is persuaded from without, it decimates intimacy. And it decimates marriages.

What is the Definition of Adultery?

Although spiritual adultery certainly happens, I am specifically talking about sexual sins. Webster defines adultery as: “voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than that person’s current spouse.”

If you have been the victim of adultery, you struggle with your identity in the world. Discarded. Less than. Not good enough. Those labels kept me up some nights. Yet Christ Jesus has given us a much more beautiful identity. Take time to memorize these Bible verses:

  • But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God” (John 1:12, ESV).
  • See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him. Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is” (1 John 3:1-2, ESV).

Since our identity is in Christ, extending forgiveness to someone who has committed adultery is not optional.

So How Do We Begin the Process of Extending Forgiveness?

Forgiving the deep betrayal of adultery seems impossible. It is perfectly normal to ask God how you even begin such a daunting process. Your life just exploded and all you can see is the debris. That’s when professional Christian counselors become vital.

When our emotions are screaming for vengeance, entertaining thoughts of forgiveness seems impossible. We want to cast the first stone. We may be tempted to inflate the circumstances and bear false witness.

But as God’s children, with the Spirit of our God dwelling inside of us, we understand that we do not operate in our own strength:

But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint” (Isaiah 40:31, ESV).

Holding on to unforgiveness creates a cage of anger and bitterness around our hearts. Taking the first step toward forgiving that betrayal is the first step to unlocking that cage toward freedom.

Adultery: One of the Hardest Acts to Forgive

Adultery ranks among the top significant hurts that are the most difficult to forgive. In fact, getting over such thing took me a solid year of counseling. Yet through the power of the Holy Spirit during that difficult time, God’s steadfast love won and forgiveness was extended.

If your marriage ended in divorce as a result of your spouse’s adultery and you are contemplating a second marriage, ensure that you have truly forgiven your ex-spouse. Otherwise, you will carry all of that ugly baggage, hurt, and bitterness into a new relationship. And that’s a recipe for disaster.

The same goes for an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend if you have engaged in premarital sex. If you are considering a new marriage (or getting married for the first time), the consequences of your ex’s lack of self-control will cause you to be suspicious of any future spouse.

New Testament: What Did Jesus Say About Forgiveness?

As Jesus was walking with His disciples in Luke 17, He paused by a sycamine tree to make a specific point about forgiveness. Why should we care about this tree and what does it have to do with forgiveness?

And the Lord said, If ye had faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye might say unto this sycamine tree, Be thou plucked up by the root, and be thou planted in the sea; and it should obey you” (Luke 17:6, KJV).

The sycamine tree had a robust root structure that plunged deep into the desert soil to tap into underground water sources. Because of its deep roots, drought or sheering it off at the base posed little threat. It was incredibly difficult to eradicate once established. It would inevitably resurface.

Scripture talks about not allowing any bitterness to take root in our hearts because eradicating unforgiveness is incredibly difficult. It grows deep, watered by any offense that lies hidden in the soil of our hearts.

Left alone, unforgiveness will establish deep roots and produce bitter fruit that surfaces through angry thoughts, words, and deeds.

But there is more. Much more.

The Sycamine Tree and Unforgiveness

The spiritual parallels between unforgiveness and the properties of the sycamine tree are chilling.

Wood from the sycamine tree was the preferred material for building coffins and caskets.

Sycamine trees grew quickly and were readily available in many places. In fact, Egyptian archaeologists have discovered small boxes made from sycamine wood at the base of mummified sarcophagi. These sycamine boxes remained uncorrupted for at least 3,000 years.

Unforgiveness remains in us, corrupting our hearts and mind until we allow God access to eradicate it.

The sycamine tree was only pollinated by wasps.

The wasp stuck its stinger into the heart of the fruit to initiate the pollination process. The tree had to be “stung” in order to reproduce. Think of how many times you have heard someone say, “I’ve been stung by that person once, but I’m not going to be stung like that again!”

You can almost see the poison of unforgiveness pollinate every bitter word they utter. Can you hear the pounding of the casket maker’s hammers?

Finally, the sycamine tree was planted where two paths met.

Its large trunk and stout branches offered shade to travelers as they paused to decide which path to take. When you and I get hurt – emotionally, mentally, or spiritually – we stand at a crossroads.

We Have a Choice

We have the choice between the dark, burdensome spiritual death sentence of unforgiveness or the Son-drenched, freeing path of forgiveness. The choice really is ours.

As children of the living God, we must believe that the process of eradicating bitter roots is never a hopeless endeavor. Jesus told His disciples in Luke 17:6 that uprooting unforgiveness is possible if a person has the faith of a grain of mustard seed.

In Him is our only hope of freedom from destructive bitterness: “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God” (Ephesians 2:8, ESV).

Since that gift of hope that the Apostle Paul talks about comes from God we have access to an abundant, unlimited supply of the poison’s antidote.

If you have ever signed a certificate of divorce, worn the label “divorced woman” or “divorced man”, the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and the blood He shed to redeem us gives us new life – eternal life. He alone is our best friend. In the kingdom of God, we wear the label, “redeemed.”

Regardless of how deep the hurt or how long we have let it reside, it is never too late to surrender our unforgiveness to God for permanent eradication.

In God’s hands, the casket maker’s career is short-lived.

I have written an entire Bible study on Forgiveness that you can find here, as well as a book/Bible study on surviving the thriving after divorce here.

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